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When it comes to parenting, parents are suppose to encourage and support their kids no matter the situation. Kids do forget that parents are also humans as well and that they also have their own feelings and problems they face everyday. When kids start to misbehave, they begin to frustrate the parent and the parent starts to say things they do not mean. The article mentions three things that every parent should never say to their child as a way to savor the relationship between parent and child as the child grows older.
1. “You’re making me crazy!”
Parents that tell their child that they are driving them nuts puts the child to feeling guilty. The impact of telling the child this will make them feel as if they are a bother to people when they begin to grow older.
2. “What’s wrong with you?”
This phrase tends to be a shame-induced saying as a way to tell the child to stop the bad behavior. This leaves the child to feeling that everything the child does will always be their fault. Instead, the parent should speak with the child as to why their behavior is unacceptable.
3. “You’d better ____ or else!”
This phrase brings fear to the child as a way to tell the child that they need to immediately fix their bad behavior. Researchers say that parents that put fear into the child will only cause problematic behaviors in the child’s future. Those behaviors will be with fellow peers, adults, and even the parent as well. What’s worse is that it will only make the child believe that the only way for the child to get what they want is through aggression
The purpose of the article was to explain that certain sayings will only bring the child to feeling insecure with out they act and unsure of how to properly act. This kind of behavior from the parent will skew the cognitive development of the child because of how the behavior they will begin to pick up from their parents. The article suggests other phrases and parenting styles that should be used instead in order to correct the child’s behavior without causing any harm in the child’s cognitive development.